Thanatology - NEW Interview (DEATH, GRIEF & MOURNING) with Cole Imperi + Tips for Going Through It

Image description: Alie holds a microphone and sits on an LA sidewalk in workout clothes and an Ologies hat next to Cole Imperi, who also wears athleisure pickleball gear and a Thanobotany shirt from her merch store (what are the chances we’d both be wearing our own merch as workout clothes?!) Cole wears dark-rimmed glasses and looks over her left shoulder, smiling.

If you have a physical body, or know someone who does, this episode is for you! Hello, we’re all going to die. And we’re probably all going to lose someone we love. Thanatologist Coel Imperi has become a dear friend and on July 17, 2022 we pulled up to a street corner in LA to chat about what she’s been up to and how to cope with the loss of a loved one. Hear about the blooming of friendship and the passing of your Grandpod, then after the break it’s a solo advice dump from me – your internet dad –  with all of the handy tips that listeners and Cole gave me as I have been Going Through It. Everything is going to be okay. It might suck here and there, but the best we can do is love hard, live fully, and cherish the memories. Also: cut bangs, text your crush, eat a tiny ice cream cone. 

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Links to things we discussed:

Cole’s writing on Shadowloss

Cole’s TEDx Talk on Shadowloss

Continuing Bonds Theory by Dennis Klass – scientific paper for sourcing

Dr. Ashton Verdery’s work on 9 mourners: 1 Covid death

Cole’s post about that research

Lawrence Ward, a.k.a.’s Grandpod’s Obituary 

Documentary “Being Mortal”

Barbara Karnes End of Life Guidelines Series

Really great pins made by Jim Clift

Digital frames: Auraframes.com (up to $100 off with code OLOGIES)

“Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief” by Martha Whitmore Hickman 

The Dinner Party – grief group for Millennials and Gen-Zers

Shout outs to: Green Valley Mortuary, Bugles Across America & Service Veterans of Northern California Volunteer Honor Guard


More episodes you might like:

Thanatology Encore (DEATH & DYING)

Fearology (FEAR & ANXIETY)

Eudemonology (HAPPINESS)

Awesomeology (GRATITUDE FOR LITTLE THINGS)

Hematology (BLOOD)


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Sound editing by Jarrett Sleeper of MindJam Media

Transcripts by Emily White of The Wordary

Website by Kelly R. Dwyer

Theme song by Nick Thorburn

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